1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
This was the most common regret of all. When people realise that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had not honoured even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made."
This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children’s youth and their partner’s companionship. Women also spoke of this regret. But as most were from an older generation, many of the female patients had not been breadwinners. All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence."
Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result."
Often they would not truly realise the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved."
This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realise until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called ‘comfort’ of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content. When deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again."
These are all legitimate fears, but it's how we respond to them that will determine our regrets later on. The author closed the article stating, "When you are on your deathbed, what others think of you is a long way from your mind. How wonderful to be able to let go and smile again, long before you are dying. Life is a choice. It is YOUR life. Choose consciously, choose wisely, choose honestly. Choose happiness."
- Stop trying to people please, for it only compromises my own happiness. I have to live this life, not them.
- Stop worrying about what others think about me; their opinion 9 times out of 10 won't add anything constructive to my life in any way.
- Start expressing my true feelings; don't wait until it's too late.
- Start valuing the TRUE friendships I have and let go of those that aren't. You know, the ones that drain you emotionally and don't encourage you to be better today than you were yesterday; for these weren't true friendships to begin with. Just because someone calls you "sis", "brother", "fam", or "friend", doesn't make you true friends. You don't need a large circle of friends, just a genuine one.
- The most important component to add, as mentioned by my dad when I shared this article with him, would be a spiritual one; strengthening my relationship with God. Don't wait until you're on your deathbed to find Him. Build this relationship now! (John 3:16, Proverbs 3:5-6 ) This spiritual component is what I need to make sure I'm valuing most.
- Finally, live this life for me. Discover what I want and go after it. What makes me truly happy?
That's a lot to take in before you've even had your first sip of coffee lol! But, that's good! Makes you say, "hmm"? What are you placing value on? What is important to you? What regrets do you think you would have? Today, if you knew you could not fail, what would you do? Now go out and do it.
Leave your thoughts below! Have a great Wednesday everyone.
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